Recently Huffpo aired a pretty curious article about alienation in the homosexual community. There were some good nuggets in there about the author’s heterosexual friends settling down and having children while his queer cohorts struggled with drugs and “high risk sex” along with the now familiar commentary on the toxicity of the LGBTQ community (also some obligatory “minority stress” rhetoric), but the most interesting part to me comes much later when the writer attempts to explain why these issues persist despite widespread acceptance of gays. Against a backdrop of “normalized” homosexuality in which parents practically celebrate it and a teenager can grow up without being called a faggot even once, the notion that bullying is directly responsible for queer misery is actually rejected in the piece itself. The first telling admission I noticed starts here:
“Gay men are, as Keuroghlian puts it, “primed to expect rejection.” We’re constantly scanning social situations for ways we may not fit into them. We struggle to assert ourselves. We replay our social failures on a loop.”
In other words, gay men are anxious about the fact they are different and this creates a paranoia of rejection. The writer invests quite a bit of time on how stressful this is when you’re coming of age and let something slip that could “out you” as being homosexual. To me this underlines the central problem here is having one minority population of people that is dramatically different from the majority. It creates a tension just below the surface and in that environment the minority individuals will always feel isolated and unable to really connect with the majority, no matter what policies the majority adopts. Heterosexuals will always be alien to the queer. This is completely acknowledged at the end of the article:
“There will always be more straight kids than gay kids, we will always be isolated among them, and we will always, on some level, grow up alone in our families and our schools and our towns.”
“I keep thinking of something Paul, the software developer, told me: “For gay people, we’ve always told ourselves that when the AIDS epidemic was over we’d be fine. Then it was, when we can get married we’ll be fine. Now it’s, when the bullying stops we’ll be fine. We keep waiting for the moment when we feel like we’re not different from other people. But the fact is, we are different. It’s about time we accept that and work with it.”
The conclusion is surprisingly fatalistic and seems to imply that unless you create the Republic of Gaysia, these “other people” will always be around making you painfully self-conscious about your own existence in the explicit Sartrian sense. The homosexual’s state of alienation is just going to be inevitable making all this endless haranguing about “acceptance” nothing more than a fool’s errand. We can see here the ultimate problem is not the “cis-hetero community” itself, but rather, the neurotic internal complexes of these individuals living in contraposition to the majority.
The final aims of globohomogayplex are ultimately futile on a deep existential level according to the very queers themselves.